Social Acceptance
When starting this personal change project, I found it easy to find a subject for me to change because it was something that I had wanted to do for a long time. I am a people pleaser. I am controlled by people’s opinion of me. Plain and simple, I want to be accepted. It is exhausting, and not possible. To begin to change, I had to embrace the reason’s I was a people pleaser and needed others acceptance.
Acceptance and Rejection
The need for acceptance always comes with the fear of rejection. The need for acceptance is a powerful motivator, but the fear of rejection can be even scarier. We can all think of a time where we were rejected, and when thinking on that memory, and I bet you can still feel the sting. “Fear of
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Need to belong
Nathan DeWall, a Psychologist at the University of Kentucky says that “Humans have a fundamental need to belong. Just as we have needs for food and water, we also have needs for positive and lasting relationships.” The need to belong can be so strong that we are willing to change who we are just to belong to a group. Most times it is small changes. For people who are people pleasers, we will go out of our way to help others, even if that means we are neglecting ourselves, just to get their approval.
Self Esteem and Rejection
According to Geraldine Downey, PH. D., professor of psychology at Columbia University, "Research says that people whose self-esteem is lower will experience rejection as more painful, and it 'll take them a little longer to get over it," he says. Meanwhile, those who have higher self-esteem -- but who aren 't narcissists -- tend to be more resilient.” Rejection for someone with low self-esteem is more damaging because they are less resilient to the hurt. A step that I have only begun to work on is my view of myself. I am not comfortable with who I am. I am always conforming to what others want me to be because I don’t have confidence in my true self. It is easier to be who others want you to be then to be who you really are. There is less rejection, if you go along with others idea of who you should be.
My Personal Change Story
I am controlled by others emotion,
Life is not always fair. Many times people have been turned down, had the door slammed in their faces or have been told, ‘No’. But it is this rejection that helps people get back on their feet. Sometimes it is this rejection that builds strength and character in the person. In the movie Edward Scissorhands, Tim Burton (the director) has shown that rejection affects everyone, but it can help to make some people stronger and brings out a side of the person that wasn’t there before.
Throughout our lives, everyone that we share bonds with and interact with on a regular basis, either forms or has some sort of influence on our identity. Consequently, the majority of us naturally find ourselves striving to fit in with these people, especially during the tough transition from childhood to adulthood. It is this part of the human condition that makes us feel as though we must forge ties with something outside of ourselves in order to establish a strong sense of existence and a clear understanding of who we are. Although most individuals are able to make these connections with others naturally, others who stray from the social norm might not be so fortunate, but rather than
Rejection happens every day and is all around us. Becoming a professional athlete is a prime example
Belonging is the complex process whereby perceptions of self and social allegiances are forged or not forget. It is a concept and not a theme, meaning it is a general idea, which encompasses the idea of not belonging. According to Abraham Maslow, belonging is essential in human development and not belonging is a barrier in achieving self-actualisation. The concept of Belonging is not static as it may change overtime for a number of different reasons such as an individual’s socio-economic background, geographic location and many other barriers. Although individuals may not belong to self, people, places, communities or the larger
Trying to belong sometimes affects people in a way that isn’t healthy for them or the people around them, changing to be something you're not is sometimes extremely tough and it hurts
Belonging in some instances can not be beneficial for ones wellbeing. Negative consequences may arise from the way in which one develops belonging. Barriers to belonging can be imposed or voluntarily constructed, and allowing one to distort the barriers can affect the way one belongs to people, places, groups or the larger world.
The need to feel a sense of belonging is a powerful and universal one. This sense is formed from connections made with others. The result can be a range of emotions, from an increase in the feeling of security and self esteem, to feelings of unhappiness and loneliness. When someone does not fit in, often because they are different, the negative emotions that they feel can be very harmful.
Many things are important to us, one of these is being accepted by our society. We all hate to be the outsider or the new kid, because we feel alone and secluded . In “Who Am I This Time?';, Helene Shaw’s job kept her moving to a different town every eight weeks. She became very cold to her
People want to be surrounded by other people. Nobody wants to be worthless. These two factors are what drive people to sacrifice themselves in order to belong. They sacrifice who they are because they need, not want, validation in their lives: a sense of belonging.
I agree that as social animals people have a strong urge to belong and as such acceptance and rejection are the most potent rewards and punishments. For example when an individual enters into university they asses their
The need to belong in an integral part of the human psyche. All people, on some level, desire to feel a sense of belonging that will emerge from the connections made with people, places, groups, communities and the larger world. Belonging cannot be achieved without an understanding of oneself and their surroundings.
Rejected, the feeling when you can’t make a friend, the one feeling that you can’t escape. Like a shadow, it follows you wherever you go and you can’t escape it. Everyone faces rejection in their life, whether it is for baseball or volleyball, track or football. The way I have faced rejection is by getting dumped by my friend Owen.
Cronin et al. (2007) explained a literature review as being a summary of research that has been carried out on the proposed research topic. The aim of the literature review is to provide a rationale for a new research topic to be undertaken. A good literature review will have a selection of information from varied sources. In this article the literature review is under the heading of background this may be a cause of confusion for some readers and could perhaps be more suited to its own heading. However, the literature review in this article clearly summarises the research that has been conducted into the topic of interest. The fact that the need to belong and accepted is a fundamental need is highlighted. Furthermore the effects of being depraved of this need are also brought to the forefront. In addition to this further studies have been conducted into the depravation of social relationships and its link with higher levels of somatic and psychosomatic illness.
The desire for positive social relationships is one of the most fundamental and universal human needs. This need has a deep root in evolutionary history in relation to mating and natural selection and this can exert a powerful impact on contemporary human psychological processes (Baumeister & Leary 1995). Failure to satisfy these needs can bear devastating consequences on the psychological well being of an individual. These needs might not be satisfied as rejection, isolation, and ostracism occurs on a daily basis to people. Although being ignored and excluded is a pervasive circumstance present throughout history across species, and humans of all ages and cultures i.e the use of Ostracism (the feeling of isolation and exclusion) has been
Rejections often cause sever psychological affects. The severity of psychological damage might be based on the emotional health of a human being. Rejection can cause serious disturbances in thinking ability, increases anger and frustration, and reduces self-esteem and confidence. Most of the rejection that most of us face are mild and the damages to mind and will heal with the time. However, if rejections are continues and not treated even mild rejections can cause serious psychological impact on mental health(5). Researchers have also proved that rejection reduces IQ level and effects work,