For the past couple of years, I’ve been dotting the i’s and crossing the t’s. It has grown on me. It already became an unstoppable monster; a monster that had eaten away most of my time; a monster that kept me from progressing; a monster that forced me to go an extra mile even though it was unnecessary; a monster that caused too much anxiety; a monster that almost destroyed me. It caused me to hold myself in high expectations. It whispers anxiety as I stare at a blank piece of paper, failing to progress because of my fear that it would be mediocre. Perfectionism, it is the name of my monster.
Being a wallflower has been my character. I lack self-confidence and the ability to socialize well. I was never good at lip service. Because of that,
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As you observe, you’ll always discover new things and learn a thing or two about them. Some might be unnecessary, and some might be useful and even crucial.
You tend to focus too much on details. Because you are a perfectionist, you want things to be clear and precise to the point that there would be no questions about it.
There would always be an inner judge or a panel inside your head. As you observe, you tend to look for mistakes and abnormalities. They’ll start talking as soon as you notice something incorrect. For instance, if you noticed someone does something incorrect, in your head, you have already humiliated him in front of everyone, criticized him, and have given your conclusion and recommendation to that specific person.
Others may find you weird for unintentionally staring at something or someone for a very long time. There are times where you or someone will notice that you are staring as if you are venturing in to the depths of nothingness. Others may accuse you for being a pervert or a weirdo so being alert is very important.
There will always be people who won’t like your attitude. Each of us have different perspectives and attitudes. You will always be judged by these people because of your
Education is never ending therefore there are many things to learn. Each and every day has something new to offer. This is a constant. I am an avid learner consequently I hunger for something new every day to quench that taste for knowledge.
Perfectionism is feeling anxious about a project because you want it to be perfect, so you stress over and procrastinate until the last minute. It is not being able to walk away from a task because you always feel that it could be more perfect. It is thinking that it’s unacceptable to make a mistake and that your achievements and accomplishments define who you are. “Perfectionism is a personality disposition characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness, and the setting
Do you push yourself to be the best? Do you get mad at yourself for not doing the best? Do you delay assignments till the last possible limit because of fear of rejection? Do you feel horrible when work isn’t done to your best ability of when minor failures seem like catastrophic ones? These are all signs of what is known as perfectionism (Pacht 1984). If you seem to agree with most of these things then you might be a perfectionist. According to Webster’s dictionary, it states that perfectionism is "a disposition which regards anything less than perfect, unacceptable." Many people in the world suffer from perfectionism. So is that case of Mike Bellah. His perfectionism lead him to a lifestyle where he lost
Learning something in our life take time and effort, and that’s hard for some of us, but that makes me happy and proud of myself when I get any new information;
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you will learn, the places you’ll go.” (Dr. Suess) The unique and most grateful thing in live is learning.
In life, we never stop learning; and sometimes, we learn from the most unexpected persons, places, or incidents.
This quote greatly contradicts my story and the conflict within it. In my story, the main character, Leonard, has thoughts and intentions opposite of Josie. He never strives for perfectionism, because he feels he has no reason to. His mother doesn't care about him, he lives on his own, and his only friend is an old man who lives next door. The theme topic of perfectionism is non-existent due to his sarcastic outlook on the world and what people become as adults. Being something in high school means nothing in the grand scheme of things because everyone he sees ends up miserable as an adult. He doesn't care about grades and makes fun of the kids who do. Because he has no strong maternal figure to look after him or worry about him like Josie
I am a perfectionist; always have been, always will be. Whether I want it to or not, that applies to every aspect of my life; including my writing. It is almost impossible for me to sit down and work on an essay or read a book without having flashbacks to countless lectures, posters, and reminders. The correctness of my writing and all of its components are very important to me. Specifically, I like to put in extra effort on my transitions, word choice, fluency, and overall likeability… Basically all of the things you see on classroom posters from kindergarten on. As I progress throughout my education I have come to realize that writing gets more complex as the years go on, but the same rules stay in place. No ‘run ons,’no using your introduction
At one point in my life, my mind nurtured this ill belief that everything in my life should be absolutely perfect, even things that are trivial. My obsession with perfection engrossed my life, especially in my handwriting. For many, the neatness of their handwriting is not their biggest priority, efficiency is. People write as fast as possible while still maintaining a basic level of legibility. But, my handwriting had to be perfect no matter how much time and effort it took. When I wrote, I made sure every single letter was legible, had the same style as the rest of the letters, and was uniformly spaced from the other letters. However, writing this way slowed down my writing speed tremendously and tired me both physically and emotionally.
During my freshman year, what I viewed as the worst possible event happened, (PAUSE) I got a B on my report card. I know that sounds dramatic but freshman me thought my world was ending. I now know that a B is a perfectly acceptable grade and that it's not the end of the world. But this raises the question, why did I think that a B was such a bad thing? Last year I worked on figuring out why I viewed B's as a bad thing. The end result of my thinking was that I am a perfectionist. Merriam Webster Dictionary defines perfectionism as “refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.” The reach for perfection can be painful because it is often driven by both a desire to do well and a fear of the consequences of not doing well. The problem is
No one had actually misjudged me or called me a perfectionist in that moment, but every time I had been called a perfectionist or smart in the past they had misjudged me. All those labels I had received in the past now upset me because “perfect” doesn’t exist and giving someone those expectations is unfair. However, I did not resent the people who had given me those labels because it is human nature to label others. However, labels can’t even begin to describe a person because people are so much deeper than their labels. I finally came to the understanding that if labels can’t even start to describe you, then they can’t be allowed to define
Perfectionism can also lead to procrastination. This is because a person is setting a goal for themselves that is unreachable. Whenever these goals are not met, they are a huge source of discouragement even though they couldn’t have been completed in the first place. This will result in lower productivity. From here, it is nothing but a downward spiral. One must realize that no one can write the perfect English paper. Instead of trying to accomplish this, we should focus our time and effort on writing the best paper according to our personal abilities. However, no one should be satisfied with less than what can be achieved.
I was not always a social and outgoing individual and I considered myself unlucky in life. I never stood out and did not have enough confidence to attempt to
Perfectionism is when one sets very high expectations often in an “overly critical manner” (Frost, Marten, Lahart,&Rosenblate,1990).
As Daniel J. Boorstin said, “Education is learning what you didn 't even know you didn 't know.”