“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim” by Vicki Harrison. It is proven that losing your loved ones is painful, shocking, some people might feel guilt, and anger. In the excerpt, “The Seventh Man” by Haruki Murakami the narrator’s best friend, K. died due to a typhoon that struck on September. After K.’s death the Seventh Man suffered in a major trauma and set back. For this reason, the narrator of “The Seventh Man” isn’t blameworthy for K.’.s death and he should forgive himself due to his actions. To begin with, “Hurricanes that originated in the northwest Pacific Ocean are called typhoons” (133). Typhoons are …show more content…
However, the narrator stated that“ I looked at one of K.’s works, that something was permeating my very flesh… surely K. had not been looking at me with hatred or resentment” (page). This proves that the friendship that they developed gave the narrator a reason to convince himself that he wasn’t responsible for K.’s death. A handful of people will agree that the Seventh Man left K. intentionally and let him die. For example, (evidence). Thus, what killed K. was the “wave like a huge snake with its held wanted him to die” (138). Furthermore, it was impossible for the narrator to save K. because he was “ten yards” away from him. Therefore, if he tried to run up to him and save him both of them could’ve died. In addition, although, the narrator failed on saving K., he was traumatized and had a difficulty moving on with his life. For example, “I was burning with fever, and my mind was clouded… been asleep for three days… vomited several times, and had bouts of delirium… in my dreams, K. would hop out of his capsule in the wave and grab my waist to drag me inside him...I never married… never went to swim in a pool… wouldn’t go near deep rivers or lakes…” (139-141). Others might conclude that the seventh man deserves everything he’s been through. However, this proves that the Seventh Man was miserable and couldn’t live life to the fullest because of the
On paper, survivor guilt seems to be a completely irrational concept. Why should you feel guilty if someone died and you survived if you had absolutely nothing to do with that person’s death, or if you tried to save someone’s life but you physically couldn’t? Without context, it almost seems silly. However, in the real world, people will form strong emotional bonds with each other and will feel responsible for their friends and family if all goes wrong, even if you had nothing to do with what has occurred. Similarly, if someone you have strong emotional connections to dies from an incident and you do, the resulting regret, grief, and guilt is known as survivor guilt. In “The Seventh Man” by Haruki Murakami, a tsunami strikes the narrator’s hometown, during which he and his friend K., while in the tranquil eye of the storm, go to the beach they spend lots of time together to assess the damage from the first half of the storm. While there, a loud noise is heard by the narrator, and sees a gargantuan wave speeding toward the shore, and tries to pry K. out of the path of destruction, alas, he was too invested in an object upon the sand. The narrator speeds away from the wave in an attempt to save his own life, and soon sees K. inside the second wave after being swept away in the first. Throughout the rest of the narrator’s life, he deals with horrible nightmares and a guilty conscience as a consequence of his traumatic childhood event and tries to rid
The narrator for the seventh man should forgive himself for not being able to save K because he did everything he could do to try to save him but he would not listen. In the story the seventh man a huge typhoon strikes the beach with a big boom while the narrator and his friend K were investigating the previous damage from the past wind and rain. The narrator heard the big booms and tried to warn his friend K but he just couldn't K was too interested in whatever he was looking at that he did not hear the yelling or the loud booms.
The narrator of “The Seventh Man” should seek forgiveness in himself. Not only is forgiving yourself an essential thing that keeps our lives going, but in his circumstances, there wasn’t much more to do to help his friend.
the narrator it was not at all his fault that K had died. He should have been able to forgive himself. A great story to source is “The Moral Logic of Survivor's Guilt.”The story explains what survivor guilt is. “The classic scenario is not so much one of good luck (as in survivors guilt), but of bad luck, typically having to do with accidents where again, there is little or no culpability for the harms caused”(Sherman 154). In the narrator of “The seventh man” case K had tragically died in a typhoon. He felt that it was his fault that K had been swallowed when in reality, if he had tried to save K he would have died himself. There was no way he could have saved K. The narrator should be able to forgive himself for not running after K. It was an accident, peer bad timing though he feels as if it was his fault. Even though the narrator of the story had watched K die, he should have been able to forgive himself because of the simple fact that it was not his
Throughout the story the fact is repeated over and that “The Seventh Man” does feel bad about his friends death but he really should not have to, it really isn't his fault. If his feet did not freeze in shock he still probably couldn't have saved K. It just wasn't meant to be that way, it was Ks time to go and for some reason he was taken by that wave in the circle of life. Some think it could have been different maybe if “The Seventh Man” was not with K but based on knowledge from the story it probably was his time to go no matter what. The death of K couldn't be caused by “The Seventh Man” because he could have just as easily been
It is simple to argue that the Seventh Man should not forgive himself for failing to save K. One may assert that the narrator could have physically warned K. by giving him a slight shove or patting him on the back. Although this is logical, if one were to literally put him or herself in the Seventh Man’s situation, he or she would recognize the overwhelming amount of thoughts running through his head in the moment. In “The Key to Disaster Survival? Friends and Neighbors,” Shankar Vedantam reports about a 2004
He felt the guilt long enough, and had to forgive himself. It didn’t only affect himself...it affected his friends and family too. What had happened was not his fault. It was a fluke of luck. Why K. unfortunately died and the Seventh Man did not will remain a mystery. Everything happens for a reason. With that said, the Seventh Man needed to forgive himself. He may have been alive, but he wasn’t living a much different life then K. He was alive, but was not living. Therefore, it was only right that the Seventh Man forgave
The Seventh Man was unsuccessful in saving his childhood friend, K. In spite of his lack of success, he should not have to live with
Hurricanes are mainly found in the Atlantic and Caribbean. Hurricanes in the Pacific are called typhoons. A more general term for these storms is a tropical cyclone. Hurricanes are named, and the naming process resets at the beginning
Primarily, K’s personality is described as kind, shy, yet artistic. K had such a kind personality, I feel that he would have wanted the seventh man to forgive himself, and live a long/happy life. Such kindness should have been considered when the seventh man thought of the event.
The narrator of “The Seventh Man,” by Haruki Murakami, struggles with the guilt of not being able to save his best friend from a horrendous wave for most of his life. His sleep is ridden with nightmares, and he chooses to never find love, so his future partner wouldn’t have to deal the constant burden of the Seventh Man’s fears. Although the Seventh Man feels strongly at fault for the death of his best friend, K, he should not blame himself for the tragic events that occured, because there was no way to prevent what happened.
Should the narrator of “The Seventh Man’ forgive himself for his failure of saving K?
The seventh man should forgive himself because if K was alive he wouldn't want the seventh man to be mad and hate himself. K would want the Seventh Man to forgive himself for his mistake. The Seventh Man did yell for K to move but K did not hear him and as a result he was eaten by a wave. Perhaps the seventh man should have tried to grab K, but he was really far out at the beach and he was probably worried that he would end up getting eaten by the wave just like K was another reason the Seventh Man should forgive himself is because he didn't create the wave to get K.
Grief and loss are one of the most universal human experiences, though painful, and understandably causes distress. However, approximately 15 % experience a more problematic grieving process with elevated symptoms of depression and/or posttraumatic stress symptoms (Bonanno and Kaltman, 1999).There is no well-established model of the timeline for resolution of grief and the variance of its expression is wide. Many persons cope with the emotional pain of bereavement without any formal intervention. However, individuals who have experienced traumatic bereavement, such as deaths that are sudden, violent, or due to human actions (Green 2000), may face particular challenges. Researchers have tried to define a model for the treatment of traumatic bereavement that fully supports not only the client, but also those working with the clients around their trauma
Roger A. Pielke Jr. and Roger A. Pielke Sr. in their book Hurricanes: Their Nature and Impacts on Society, state that the hurricane is a member of a phenomena called cyclones, which refers to “any weather system that circulates in a counterclockwise direction in the Northern Hemisphere and in a clockwise direction in the Southern Hemisphere” (p.15). The word